Ex-partner

 

Conflict resolution

Conflict resolution is a skill that can be learnt. It requires both people to be willing to look at alternative ways of doing things. There are five different styles of conflict resolution.

What is my style of conflict resolution?

Are your differences too minor or too great to resolve? Do your attempts to resolve conflict, damage or create greater problems in your relationship?
Do you find discussing issues is not worth risking damage to your relationship or general disharmony?
Do you find it's a case of survival of the fittest in an argument? Do you have to be the superior one in an argument? Do you have to be ethically or professionally correct?
Do you find that no one person or idea is perfect? Do you feel that there is more than one good way to do something?
Do you find that when you discuss issues openly, a mutually beneficial solution can be found without anyone making a major concession?

Problem solving

To reduce the potential for conflict every time something new arises or there is a change, agree on how to deal with things up front, before problems arise. Win/win - 6 steps to problem solving.

Contact

In the same way parents never stop being parents just because there is a breakdown in the relationship, a child never stops being someone's child. Children have a right to have contact with both parents, and it is the responsibility of the parents to meet their children's needs. Contact Guidelines.

Communication

Effective communication does not just happen. It is a skill that can be learnt. It enables people to:

• state clearly what they mean
• ensure the other person understands what is being said
• ensure the other person understands why the issue is important.

Communication tips

Developing a parenting coalition between ex-partners

Maintaining a workable relationship with your ex-partner is essential for joint parenting to continue. Me, My Kids and My Ex provides a range of practical tips and hints on how to do this for the benefit of the kids.
Advantages of having a parenting coalition between ex-partners

The Community Services Directory

There is help out there! The Community Services Directory provides information on community organisations nationwide that can provide you with assistance with many different issues.

Other resources

Me and My Kids—Parenting from a distance (PDF 485k)

What about Me—Taking care of yourself (PDF 2.9M)

Me and My Money—Practical money ideas (PDF 691k)

Me, My Kids and My Ex—Building a workable relationship with the other parent (PDF 836k)

Me and My Changing Family—Moving forward (PDF 1.02M)

Dealing with Separation—Experiences, tips and tools

Last updated: 12 May 2008 08:39